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Caroline Whole-It ends with me's avatar

For me this came up after reading the beautiful, powerful poem 🙏:

A hurt mother that hurts her daughter. Something meant to be beautiful, has become ugly. The bloated seeds and roots are in a way difficult for me to grasp. What comes up is how the damage after abuse continues through generations - even if we are aware and see it.

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

I enjoyed hearing this interpretation, Caroline. For me, I think of the soil as toxic from generational patterns of scapegoating abuse; the seeds of this toxicity being spread within the earth; the transgenerational roots of trauma...But this was after the fact. I write my poems 'automatically' without thinking. I read them after to see what they said!

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Caroline Whole-It ends with me's avatar

Yes I do the same - I write what comes through me 🌿. Wonderful Rebecca 🙏

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Ki M's avatar

So do I! I have a couple one-liners that I wrote 10 years ago that I really didn't understand until now. As if the Universe game me fair warning.....but connecting the dots has come full circle to those two one-liners. I love it and they are probably the most meaningful of all my own poetry.

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Ki M's avatar

I look at it also as the soil, roots, seeds being wrought from the generational damages. And even if we are aware and see it - and end my own participation in it - the memories of a lifetime continue to stir the need to "air out" and heal.

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Donna Lavecchia's avatar

Moving imagery, especially the bloated seeds with roots. It made me even more grateful that my mother did not spend a lot of time outdoors around our house, because that’s where I went to survive. Her power central was the kitchen and she had an intercom to my dad’s shop—where he went to survive.

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

Oh no - an intercom!! I remember finding solace in a tree in the backyard. I would climb very high to a comfortable branch and stay there for hours. I also hid in the closet, but that's another story for another time...(and not as comforting).

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Donna Lavecchia's avatar

Me too—-loved the Modesto Ash—-then they cut it down—cause the roots were ruining the cement patio. Then they cut down the Chinese Elm in the front too. 😢

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

My mom took an axe to my beloved willow tree (not the one I sat in but still, I felt very close to it). It was like watching the murder of a friend. I was 4 years old. I wept and begged her to stop. Her face was red and sweaty and I imagined in my mind's eye she was chopping the axe at my father. In 'reality', the roots were likely interfering with the plumbing. And to think she had nobody to help her or could not afford to hire anyone to help. I still believe I have PTSD from watching that willow tree be chopped down. Later, a poet friend of mine told me that the willow tree symbolizes poetry. It was like my soul was being hacked away...Dramatic - but true.

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Donna Lavecchia's avatar

😢

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Ki M's avatar

Oh that is so sad. I would feel that too. There came a time when i realized as a teen that i couldn’t cut down a beautiful living tree in the wild, just to bring home for Christmas - a free short weeks then throw it away. I remember in college buying a Charlie Brown tree with three uneven branches and loving it for its last days.

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Patricia Mowatt's avatar

So sorry about your tree. I witnessed my childhood piano being ripped out of our basement in pieces on a day when I returned home as an adult after years of living far away.

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Rosalee's avatar

Very compelling words Rebecca. Reminds me of my experience of being attacked with a smear campaign while in cancer treatment, and how FSA lies easily take root and the poison spreads.

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

Yes, and that so often this is a poison residing deep within the soil, contaminating the roots of the family system via transgenerational trauma.

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Donna Lavecchia's avatar

So Sorry Rosalee 😢.

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VicB's avatar

So sorry. Hugs to you.

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Rosalee's avatar

Thank you & hugs back 🙏

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Jmitch1909's avatar

stunning

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

Thank you.

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J..'s avatar

I’ve recently been thinking about the evil of my parents being tentacles, growing, and reaching far into the soil around them.

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

Willful unconsciousness can be a form of evil. Egoic pride; an inability to be accountable for harms done - all magnifies the poisonous roots that spread out, affecting and impacting generations to come.

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Patricia Mowatt's avatar

Rebecca, I am wonder...how is something both willful and unconscious? I seek understanding because these two words sound mutually exclusive in my way of thinking. What am I missing? Please offer guidance.

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Aun Ali, MBBS's avatar

Haunting and eerie! Thank you for sharing!

PS the image is so good!

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

Thanks, Aun - I have great fun creating AI collaborative images for my posts here on The Inviolate Self!

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VicB's avatar

Beautiful! My sister, also wounded, as she clings to her role as protector of family secrets.

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Scapegoat Healing Rebecca LMFT's avatar

Yes - their wounding may not be as overt of obvious - but it is invariably there. And thanks!

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Patricia Mowatt's avatar

Those words: "It's all in your head." ...spoken by an adult to a child, strike me now as total gaslighting in a pithy shut-out that invalidates and confuses the child. I needed guidance and clarity to understand the truth about myself, others and how to live in the real world.

But then....none of us can give what we do not have.

The healing journey of transformation comes from the One True and Living God who is my help and the Maker of heaven and earth.

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